Gender Assumptions

Secular society bombards us with assumptions about morality and science that are untrue and unhealthy to adopt. Here are some popular assumptions, followed by an explanation of the truth.

Assumption: Assigned sex is a person’s God-given maleness or femaleness as defined by their anatomy and chromosomes. But gender is whether a person feels like a man or woman. Therefore if “assigned sex” doesn’t match with “gender” the person automatically has an incurable, fixed and immutable condition called “gender dysphoria”—no matter how old they are—which means that they are were “born in the wrong body”. Their “gender” should then be affirmed, even if it the opposite of their assigned sex, and they should be raised according to their gender that they feel they truly are.

This is an utter lie. If a person with a nose felt confused about whether they had a nose, would we not consider them delusional? Why is this any different? Only in this particular case, the delusion actually belongs to secular culture, which plants the idea in young people’s head that “they are supposed to feel their gender” something that no person was ever asked to do before in the history of mankind and something that is simply not possible to do. When young people are given this impossible task, they are essentially getting a hand-delivered opportunity to suffer a false identity crisis.

The fact is, however, that people, may not always feel like their assigned sex for any number of reasons. Sometimes it is a temporary, fluctuating feeling. Young children, for example, are known to experiment with playing or pretending they are one gender or another. At times they might tell a parent that they are different from their assigned sex. This is normal and these feelings will pass as long as the parent reassures and reminds them that their sex is chosen for them by God and that this is something humans don’t get to choose.

Some people can identify more—as in relate to—the opposite-sex males or females in their environment based on their tendencies, personalities and interests. And when a person does not relate to or feel similar to their same-gendered peers, this indeed can be painful. They can feel not good enough or feel as if their pain would go away if they were just actually in an oppiste sex body. Others may not like their body and physical appearance. They too may believe that they would be happier if only if they existed as the opposite sex.

But these are all thoughts, feelings and wishes, which can be vented, worked through and changed and which often pass on their own as the person continues to find their way in life and build more self-esteem. These dynamic feelings, no matter how intense or persistent they are in the moment, cannot be used to determine one’s “real gender” and cannot override the physical way they were born and created by G-d, as defined by their chromosomes and anatomy.

In other situations, a person can feel emotionally compelled to dress up or act like the opposite sex, which is a different issue entirely, usually related to obsessive compulsive patterns. Or someone can also develop strong sexual arousal to opposite-sex garments, whether they feel urges to look at them or put them on, which is another example of a “lust-trigger” discussed earlier. The Torah tells people that they are not allowed to cross-dress, which validates the potential temptation for such behavior but which also clearly points them in the direction of getting help if they feel emotionally compelled to do this.

It is psychotic and dangerous for a society to allow people to define reality by their feelings and not by physical evidence. Doing so opens up the door for people to insist that they are animals, aliens, multiple people or robots, because this is how they feel.